20 May 2006


You Are Indigo

Of all the shades of blue, you are the most funky, unique, and independent.
Expressing yourself and taking a leap of faith has always been easy for you.

Thats just bollocks.

I do it, but I don't find it any easier than complying with expectations, because there are too many expectations in this world and whatever you do, its impossible to 'get it right' according to everybody. Hung for a sheep as a lamb, as they say.

The way I see it, all you have to do is say this to yourself, every day for a month, in the mirror, in the voice of a proper Jewish mother:

"But darling, people will always take the piss!"

Once you have fathomed, acknowledged and accepted* that somebody out there, every day, is going to mentally discard you as pathetic or unworthy; once you have worked out that its their loss, once you have woken up to the fact that someone (or possibly several people, or so what if its everybody?) will think you are at best irrelevant and at worst a total jerk whatever you damn well do......

.........then you are free.

Because you may as well be exactly who you damn well please, or even set out to shock if you like, because its not going to make one iota of difference to the number of stupid people passing their stupid judgements. The freedom is amazing. The only critic left that matters one jot is yourself, your conscience.

It will, however, make a difference to the number of heart-on-the-sleeve, daredevil, honest people who see you as a sibling adventurer and treasure you for it. Try.

*Accepting it is the hard part - too many people run their lives in fear of what certain people would say, and many that break away do it by 'pushing back' - the energy they expend to act in defiance of these unnamed people ends up being expressed as a counter attack. There are more choices than the roles of victim and aggressor (or equal combatant). Acceptance is like agreeing to differ, with forgiveness thrown in.


Writer Mom said...

Right! Feeling kicked in the pants! Now all I have to do is give MY inner critic the finger. He's (why is it a HE?) always been the worst of the lot.
*Shall we put this sentiment on a rotation for weekly reminders?

Cheryl said...

That from a woman with a wedding as individual and free and wonderful as yours?


266k said...

Finally.. I'm free!

Thanks Cheryl for your "lightbulb" postings.

Mine's just been switched on.

Cheryl said...

I suspect you of sarcasm.
I ADORE sarcasm.
Thanks for commenting again so I have your blog address again.

266k said...



Jo said...

Oh God you've gone and done one of those terribly insightful posts that I can't really add anything to!


Except to say spot on Cheryl. I recognise your words, because they sum up aspects of my life...

Cheryl said...

You know what?

That means so much to me, thank you!

I guess a valid addition to this would be to mention that if the 'sibling adventurers' stonewall you; then you're in trouble.

I'm really glad you said something. :-)

Miss Cellania said...

People will always take the piss. What? Must be British, which I am only barely learning. Is this a common phrase?

clueless Yank

Jo said...

Miss Cellania...

'Taking the piss' - a major British pastime. Means 'making fun of'. Short for 'Taking the Piss Out of...'

God knows where it comes from. Chaucer probably.